As some of you may know, I am polyamorous. I have two boyfriends, who both know about each other and are fine with the situation. One of them is married and has another girlfriend, both of whom he lives with. The other has had some flings but hasn't found anything else serious as of yet.
I recently told my parents about this. They don't really get it, but generally speaking they're supportive. Or so I thought. I was talking to them about being poly a few nights ago, and they asked what I would do if I had kids. Would I continue this lifestyle or would I settle down and be monogamous. I told them that I didn't see why having kids would change anything. My mom wasn't particularly happy with that answer, but my step-dad got very upset. He essentially told me that he thinks that that sort of environment is not appropriate to raise children in, and if I do have kids and continue that lifestyle, he will do everything in his power to protect my children from me. Essentially, he would have my kids taken away from me.
I think part of the issue here is that he has no idea what this would consist of. I don't know if he thinks I'd be having orgies in the house, in the room next to where my kids sleep or what. That wouldn't be the case. What my ideal is for having a family, is that I would like a household with more than two parents. So, if for example, my secondary boyfriend and I stayed together, and our primary relationships were still going strong, the four of us might get a house together. His girlfriend doesn't want to have children of her own because she has a lot of health problems and doesn't want to pass them on. But I think it would be a fantastic experience to grow up in a house with more than two parents. Some things kids feel comfortable talking about to one parents, other things to a different parent. Plus there's not going to be as much stress to find baby-sitters or day-care, and the more incomes a household has, the better off financially it will be.
I'm curious, what do you guys think? Do you think growing up in a household where you have more than two parents that love you and care for you is unhealthy? Immoral? Or do you think it has the potential to be a really great experience? I'm a big fan of the saying "It takes a village to raise a child." That's where a lot of these thoughts come from.